holding your baby in the NICU

Are you part of the NICU club? Do you have a child who is still struggling with the effects of being born too soon from preeclampsia? Share your concerns and stories here among parents who have been there.
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Re: holding your baby in the NICU

Postby sam10 » Sun Jun 05, 2011 09:23 pm

We were not allowed to hold Henry, only touch him and even that was not always possible depending how he was doing. I finally held him in my arms as he died.
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MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
H (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
M (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: holding your baby in the NICU

Postby kerisue » Sun Jun 05, 2011 03:50 pm

They barely let me hold Millie at all. Sometimes they didn't even want me to touch her! I held her on the night she was born. One time I held her in my hands briefly when they changed her position from prone to supine. One time I held her wrapped up in a warming blanket (no touching basically) and then they finally let me hold her skin to skin (chest to chest) on the day we were going to remove her oxygen (the day she died). Not nearly enough if you ask me! Back when I was in college I did an internship at **** studying kangaroo care for preemies, but they didn't let me do that until the last day. If I'd known she was going to die anyway, I would have advocated for more holding time, but I basically just did whatever they told me. So unfair that those brief moments were all we got.
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed

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Re: holding your baby in the NICU

Postby jean » Sun Jun 05, 2011 12:01 am

They also had rocking chairs in the NICU and my husband always wanted to rock when he was holding our son...which worried me as well b/c I thought he was too young and small to be rocking in the chair. *shrugs* (but I don't know if that's that would be an issue or not)
Our first son was born and passed in Feb of 2010. Born at 29 weeks due to HELLP and passed due to NEC. We miss him every day. :~(

Our second son was born at 39 weeks gestation in Nov of 2011. No HELLP or pre-e! Took LDA starting at week 12 and went off of it at week 38!

http://findingtherainbowconnection.blogspot.com/

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holding your baby in the NICU

Postby jean » Sun Jun 05, 2011 09:44 am

When we had our son (btwn 28-29 weeks) we got to hold him about once a day. It was soo hard...not being able to hold your child, and then when we did hold him, the hubby and I took turns. So I really didn't get to hold my baby very often. :~( They told us that holding is good, but also bad b/c it can be hard on the baby. Sometimes when I look back I blame myself and think maybe we held him too much and that's why he got NEC. (Every possible scenario has run through my head) *sigh* Anyway, I was wondering how often others got to hold their babies when they were inthe NICU-esp. if they were born quite early. And when were you able to hold them more (and how much more?)
Our first son was born and passed in Feb of 2010. Born at 29 weeks due to HELLP and passed due to NEC. We miss him every day. :~(

Our second son was born at 39 weeks gestation in Nov of 2011. No HELLP or pre-e! Took LDA starting at week 12 and went off of it at week 38!

http://findingtherainbowconnection.blogspot.com/


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