How soon after?

[suleaf]

oh finah i am so sorry. i lose mira... my baby girl... just days before you lost austin. so i hope they've found each other and are watching over us....

we started trying again in jan. it's been really hard emotionally but also helpful.... i felt ready in jan, i guess, and there is no clear cut answer.... i wanted to be medically cleared of underlying disorders etc and then i got the green light.

good luck to you!

[fionahk]

Thank you to all the wonderful people who replied to this post. I haven't been back to the doctor yet for additional checks to do so. I am just so worried Papua New Guinea doesn't have the facilities to cater for premmie babies. Austin was born with no congenital defects but dies of hyperthermia because he wasn't in a humidy crib.

[mrs. sagara]

Finah,

I am so sorry as well for your loss. I have lost 3 children and was told to wait between 6 months to 1 yr. to TTC again.
I had a physical done after 3 months and was told I had gallbladder stones. I had my gallbladder removed.
I started trying to conceive thereafter. So far I know physically I am ok
However, I think you also have to be emotionally prepared to TTC again.
Good luck and Take care.

[rsgeller]

I am so sorry for the loss of your little Austin. I lost my son on 6/2/07. I was told to wait 6 weeks pp before trying again. I waited for 2 cycles and then got pg again. I'm due with our second child on 5/22/08. However, I had a vaginal delivery and I was told that the waiting time differs for c-section. I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. Take care.

[julie f]

Finah,

I too am so very sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my first son after delivering him at 26 weeks, my heart breaks for you. My OB asked us to wait six months, my peri a year. We ended up somewhere in the middle. Like the others have already suggested, my best advice would be to meet with a high-risk OB for a preconception consult.

Thinking of you,
Julie

[for faith]

Finah - So, so sorry for your loss of Austin. I agree with what everyone said. I had a normal c-section and drs. only recommended we wait 6 months for that to heal. I ended up getting a lot of testing done (with no answers though) and we decided to try 8 months after she was born. I got pregnant right away and had a perfect pregnancy which I thought I could never have.

Take care, wishing you the best in this journey.

[ud0r1234]

Finah, so sorry for you losing Austin. I lost my son on Nov 28th of 2007. I struggled with wanting to try again and how soon. I talked with my peri and he had me tested for underlying disorders. I happen to have a bloodclotting disorder that predisposes me to pre-e. He wants me to wait until my bp is back to normal and then wait at least 3 menstrual cycles which would land me at March. My Ob-gyn would like me to wait until 6 months which would land me at May. So once i get the greenlight from my peri - we plan to start trying in April - once the pregnancy reaches about 8 wks he plans to put me on Lovenox(blood thinner). Hope this was helpful. - Dee

[joker]

I am so sorry for your loss. My peri advised me to wait six months and my regular OB advised we wait a year. We are planning to TTC beginning in April, wich would put us right at 10 months since we lost our daughter. We decided to wait closer to a year, because I don't want to be on the same timeline I was with Abby. Hope this helps.

[crystalw]

Finah, I am sorry for the loss of your precious angel. My peri advised me that there needed to be at least 18 months between Addison's b-day and my next "due date" For me.. I'm just not sure because of the emotional healing that I just don't know when it will be healed. Are you ever completley "healed"? I don't think so. I know I have heard this.. you can't replace your lost child, but another one is a darn good painkiller. I'm not sure how I feel about that. On certain days thats all I can think about is having another child and then on other days I'm so incredibley scared that I may be making the wrong decision. I think everyone is different and I agree with Anne, you should have a meeting with a high-risk specialist and see what he thinks. I also had the classical (vertical) incision... otherwise he said I could be trying after 2 normal cycles.

[annes]

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. After losing my son I was advised to wait at least six months, although my ob thought a year would be better because of the classical c-section. For various reasons, some health related, some emotional we waited almost two years and here we are with our fingers crossed. Before we started trying I met with a high-risk specialist and talked about my history and medical issues. That was a good place to start, and helped me get ready for the journey. Good luck to you, take care of yourself.