THE SONS I NEVER NURTURED

Post On Saturday, April 08, 2017 By KOIWAH

THE SONS I NEVER NURTURED

The SONS I NEVER NUTURED

 

 

 

I am a mother of 5 children, one biological 4 adopted. I am still under 30 years old and yet have suffered under the fatal and cruel menace of the deadly pregnancy disease Pre-Eclampisa.

 I have lost two sons because of this disease. Twice my husband and I have had to bury our two sons. My own life has been at risk because of this disease. I say I cannot and will not go through this anymore.

This “Placenta disease” it is referred to is gradually becoming prevalent in this part of our world and only Heavens know and can recount the silent grief and tears of mothers, fathers and families have shared because of the disease.

 I seek to share my stories with all mothers out there who have suffered the same fate under preeclampsia; to let them know that they are not alone and to all women and yet to be mothers; to create awareness that this Pregnancy Disease is real, one we must strongly guard ourselves against and prevent to minimize infant and maternal mortality rate in Ghana.

 

RECOUNT I

I suffered the condition of Eclampisa with my first pregnancy at 27 weeks in the month of October 2012. As a newly happy couple we were looking forward to being parents and having our first child who, per the scan, was a girl but actually came out to be a boy. Ignorant to the existence of this disease even though I had been attending antenatal at one Twumasiwaa Hospital, I went total blackout and passed out on the 5th of October 2012 as my blood pressure skyrocketed to about 240/180. I know not what happened but I almost died and the only way to save my life was to deliver the premature baby through emergency Caesarean Section. . It was my husband who saw it all and carried me to the hospital, oh how he suffered.

 So tiny and undeveloped was our baby boy not ready to face the outside world and in 8 days he died because respiratory failure. His death was so painful because I had held and bathed this tiny baby for three days, I recall his tiny body and face and on the day when I last saw him, I knew, I felt my son was suffering and was pleading with me to let him go. Such suffering in his eyes I could not stand.

His Loss broke me down mentally physically; for he was our first child, the fruit of our love as newly married couples. Words cannot describe the loss but we sailed through d was blessed   another 6 months later….

Recount II

Fast forward 2017, I suffer this same loss with my 2nd son who is the 3rd born of my children. I have a lovely 3year old girl whom I conceived 6months following my loss and who came out healthy and near full term at 37weeks.

This time it is the condition of Pre-Eclampisa which killed my son, I still don’t even understand scientifically how and why my almost 28 week’s years old boy could just die in my womb.

On the 16th of March 2017, the  fetal heartbeat of my child could not be felt. My blood pressure remained high and to make matter worse I had to wait till18th to go through another C-Section to get the dead fetus out. Oh such pain I had to go through with no compensation of a baby to heal my wounds. As I lay down in the theater that day, as I tried to calm my mental agony and fears I said No No, I will not go through this again, this was my last chance according to science, three caesarean with one surviving child, my lovely girl Deoli , this was seemingly the final one to close the baby making deal, so Why this again…………

Though, this is not my dream,and a painful one as such I know not what to do, for spiritually I desire more children but physically hmmmm

I pray for Gods miacle and for his will to pevail.

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