Hope after a pre-eclamptic pregnancy
Posted On Tuesday, February 26, 2013 by Nicky
After I had lost Keira our little girl on the 2nd January 2012. I was really upset and I never believed that I would have a wonderful pregnancy with no issues and or problems.
In March 2012, once my gynae had come back from maternity leave for having her baby the same day I lost mine,she gave me a call. And she told me I should wait at least a year before I try again to fall pregnant. I had done a lot of reading and checking this forum for answers as to how long I should wait to try again. All I ever wanted in the whole wide world was to become a MOM.
At my check-up with the stand in gynae I asked him how long should I take to start trying again..... He answered me and said as soon as you are well and ready to try again. Months went by and seeing pregnant ladies around me made me so hurt. But each person goes through their loss and grief in different ways. I sat down with my husband one night in tears and said would he want to try again. And we decided to try again.
I had not been back to my original gynae since and decided against going back to her. I had spoken to many people and decided on changing gynaes and went to a new one instead. I had explained my story to him and he was so sensitive. He asked a few questions and did an examination and so we started the process of trying again.....
Our little boy was conceived on Father's Day, while I was holding the pregnancy test in my hand, I went hot and cold and just started to ball my eyes out. Phoned my husband straight away and started crying on the phone to him. He was over the moon. My new gynae had said the minute I get the blood tests back from the doctors rooms I phone and make an appointment, and say it is a high risk pregnancy. When I went for my gynae appointment it was true I was 5 weeks pregnant. We were so excited and scared!!!!!!!! And you have crazy things going through your mind......what if this happens again.
Well we took this pregnancy one step at a time. Nice and slow. My new gynae looked at me and said I promise nothing will happen. I said ok, and I believed him. My husband and family have been there through the whole pregnancy egging me on when I have had those bad days and sad days. Positive thinking is also a very important key too.
The whole pregnancy went perfectly well with no issues or problems what so ever. Though I was put onto ecotrin from 12 weeks on. No bladder or kidney infections and or other problems occurred throughout my pregnancy. Our little boy, Connor has grown amazingly well throughout the pregnancy,and has been healthy and so has his mommy. I am currently at 38 weeks today, and am due to give birth via c-section tomorrow morning.
I would just like to give those ladies out there some hope and courage to try again..... You can do it!
Wishing you all safe and successful pregnancies from this day forward!!!!!!!!!
Connor du Toit
Posted On Sunday, March 10, 2013 by Nicky
Our little man Connor du Toit was born on the 27th February 2013, at 7:45am, weighing 3,690kg. length 55cm via c-section. Went home after 3 days and both of us are in perfect health!
Posted On Sunday, March 10, 2013 by Laura
Sorry to hear about your little girl.....congrats on the birth of Connor. We lost our second son, a little boy, last Fall at 32 weeks due to placental abruption from preclampisia/HELLP. I am now 16 wks. pregnant and doing well so far. I wish for a healthy pregnant and for the baby and myself to keep healthy. Thanks for sharing your story.
Posted On Friday, March 22, 2013 by Naomi
Hi, Nicky. Out of all the stories I've read on this site so far, yours has touched me the most. Your experience with preeclampsia and your despair because of it, is very similar to mine.
In August 2012, I was diagnosed with severe preeclampsia and had to deliver our daughter 3 1/2 months early. She lived for a total of 2 1/2 precious months.
My doctors have told me to wait a least two years before trying again. My husband and I are, of course, completely frightened by the thought of preeclampsia striking again and losing another child and/or me. In fact, he's leaning toward never trying again.
But I still have that longing to be a mom. It's all I ever wanted. I've dreamed of it my whole life. And I was starting to believe that I may never be one. But your story made me feel encouraged. Maybe it's not impossible. Maybe my dream of being a mom can still come true.
Thank you for sharing. Your story has given me a shred of hope that I didn't have before.
Posted On Tuesday, April 02, 2013 by Ashley
I can relate so much to you, we just recently lost our baby girl Malia after having a C Section at 29 weeks due to severe Preeclampsia. She fought so hard for 2 days but it was too much. We miss her so much, but the overwhelming feeling of being a mom with no baby to hold is so hard. Seeing pregnant woman and babies hurts so much and I wonder if we'll ever be parents. The feeling that trying again is what I'm meant to do is strong but the fear that I could lose another baby terrifies me!
Nicky, did you have a c section with your daughter? I've heard that the time you should wait before trying again after a c section is longer due to the incision healing.
Posted On Thursday, April 25, 2013 by Naomi
You have my deepest condolences. How have you been? I almost think as time goes by, seeing all the pregnant women and the babies, the grief becomes more excruciating. And the longing becomes stronger. For me, it's a constant reminder of what I lost and of what I may never have again. It's so hard. And so unfair.
How have you been coping?
Posted On Thursday, June 20, 2013 by Nicky
My first gynae said to me to wait atleast a year before trying again. I found the pre-eclampsia forum and everything I read said the longer you wait the higher your chances are of getting pre-eclampsia again. I changed my gynae and said to him I want to try again. He said just wait until your blood pressure is stable and ready to try again.
Both my husband and I where petrified to try again but, with the support of our families we got through it. And on the 27th June 2013,our little baby boy is going to be 4 months old!!!!!!!
You and your hubby will be parents one day. I am so glad that I have given you encouragement to try again.
Posted On Thursday, June 20, 2013 by Nicky
I am so so so glad that I could give you all hope and encouragement to try again!!!!!!!! That is the biggest gift I wanted to give you all!!!!!!!!!!
Sending you loads more hope and encouragement to you all.....Wishing you all the healthiest and stress free pregnancies......
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