May 07, 2026 By Destiny Shaffer
My pregnancy was pretty normal, really no morning sickness. I had a subchorionic hematoma before my first appointment with my OB, hospital said I was around 7 weeks. Rested, baby was fine. I was referred to a perinatologist due to my BMI. Regular ultrasounds, baby liked to hide from them. Hardly anyone knew I was pregnant by looking at me because I never really "popped". Some days my feet were a little swollen but nothing major. We associated it with the heat and being pregnant. I would get headaches something, usually if I didn't get sleep, I also use a computer for work.
I get put in for NST, go to my first one and its fine but perinatologist didn't like it so I had to return the next day and blood pressure was high. Nurse retested after 15 minutes and it was worse. To triage I went, they continue to monitor and couldn't get pressure down without meds. Urine test showed proteins so I got to stay for a 24 hour observatione and urine collection. Numbers are off the check so I couldn't leave. We didn't need to deliver baby yet because the pressure was being managed. I was stuck until 37 weeks or if severe features became present. 31 days. I stayed 31 days until my c section (baby was breech), bed rest and constant monitoring. I got a second blood pressure medication, and almost got an emergency c section twice because of high numbers.
The end of my pregnancy was taken, I was admitted 2 days before my baby shower. I missed my step sons 10th birthday. My choice was gone.
Looking back postpartum, I understand that the admission to the hospital was necessary but I missed out on so much. I had to leave work before my scheduled time. I was/still am terrified of being readmitted.
My husband and I did not want another baby after our daughter, however, this experience solidified that decision and I requested for a bilateral tubal ligation during my procedure.
Postpartum was rough, constant check in with my OB to monitor blood pressure, medication after medication.
I am now 7 months postpartum and finally feel like I can start healing.
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